In today’s world, allyship is more than just a buzzword—it’s an essential force for creating truly inclusive spaces and uplifting marginalized voices. Being an ally isn’t just about saying you support a cause; it’s about taking real, meaningful action.
What Does It Mean to Be an Ally?
An ally is not just someone who claims not to be racist or homophobic. An ally is an active force for change—someone who speaks up in the face of discrimination, educates themselves about different experiences, and uses their privilege to amplify marginalized voices.
A true ally doesn’t just text their support privately but stands up publicly, even if their voice shakes. They ask questions like, “Why isn’t this person included?” or “How can I support you in this moment?” Allyship is about listening, learning, and taking action.
How to Be an Effective Ally
If you’re wondering how to step into a more active role in allyship, here are key strategies to help:
1. Active Listening
We often hear the phrase, “Listen and don’t judge.” But I say, “Listen and learn.” Seek out diverse perspectives and be open to feedback, even when it’s uncomfortable. If someone from a marginalized group offers constructive criticism, take it as an opportunity for growth.
2. Speak Up—But Don’t Speak Over
Using your voice to call out discrimination is important, but it’s equally vital not to overshadow the voices you’re trying to support. Instead of taking over the conversation, amplify the voices of those affected.
3. Educate Yourself and Others
Don’t expect marginalized groups to teach you everything. Take initiative—read books, listen to podcasts, and explore the concept of intersectionality to understand the varied experiences within marginalized communities.
4. Take Meaningful Action
Allyship isn’t just words—it’s action. In your workplace, school, or community, challenge discriminatory systems and advocate for inclusive policies. Whether it’s calling out an unfair practice or mentoring someone from an underrepresented group, small actions lead to big change.
Avoiding Common Pitfalls of Allyship
While most people have good intentions, there are some missteps that can hinder true allyship:
- Performative Allyship: This happens when people appear supportive on the surface—such as changing a profile picture or wearing a symbolic color—without taking real action.
- Savior Complex: You’re not here to rescue anyone. Allyship is about standing with marginalized groups, not for them.
- Getting Defensive: If someone gives you feedback on how to be a better ally, listen, learn, and repair the harm. Don’t get defensive—use it as a moment to grow.
Moving Forward: Committing to True Allyship
Allyship is a lifelong commitment. If you’re unsure where to start, ask yourself:
- How can I listen and learn more?
- Am I speaking up without speaking over?
- What tangible actions am I taking to support marginalized communities?
If you’re ready to deepen your understanding of allyship, my online course “Cultural Competency & Being an Active Ally” is the perfect next step. This training includes key terms, courageous conversations, and practical strategies to become a more effective ally. Plus, you’ll receive two private one-hour coaching sessions with me!
